Nothing has been easy, no, no it hasn't. My father was not in the picture my whole life until I went looking for him. My mom left him when I was 6 months old and he never even tried to look for me.
When I was 23 I went looking for him and found him. We had a very good relationship until his passing 9 years after.
Over the years I have connected with family that I personally sourced and sought after. The same goes for long lost friends.
I have no issue finding people and forgiving them for whatever caused them to split. Maybe it is something I did, maybe their life got hard. I know we as humans suffer, we are good and we are bad. When that reconnection occurs I decide if the relationship is worth pursuing based on how genuine they are about why they disappeared or avoided me. Pushing a relationship on someone is not my style. Forgiveness and moving forward is.
However, I also find that no one comes to me. No one comes looking for me.
Am I not a long lost treasure like I treat them to be?
I pursue and search for what was lost and have not been disappointed yet, I will not accept that stupid mantra about if it wonders away from you then let it go, it wasn't meant to be. That is crap.
That mantra kept me from my father for most of my life and from the blessing of the rest of my family I met through him.
Yes, he was wrong in not looking for me, no he probably did not deserve forgiveness. But he asked for it when I found him. The forgiveness was like a blanket and a shield and a comfort for us both.
Going back for someone does not always end up in the best possible scenario but it could.
One day, I hope to be that treasure worth being retrieved.
May no one think that I was a window that was closed or any of those lies.
Do not believe in stupid mantras with no logical grounds of origin.
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